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March 16th, 2012 // 11:49 am @

Q.  I think I lost my orgasm.  What can I do?

A.  Where did you lose it?  (Just a little sexpert humor)

It is possible for your desires and body responses to change depending on so many things; vaginal arousal, dryness, medication, sexual boredom, stress, etc.  The first few are easy to cure.  Lack of vaginal lubrication and sexual readiness can be the main cause of unsatisfactory sexual experiences.  There is a very simple remedy: LUBRICATION!.  It is always better to be slippery and safe than sore and sorry.  You’d be surprised how much the addition of a little bit of lube can improve sexual experiences.

Sexual boredom and stress can be the cause of the problem too.  Try new places, positions, and even toys to spice up your sex life.  It is so easy and very common for long term couples to find themselves in a sexual rut.  No one would want to eat the same sandwich every day, so don’t expect your sex to be any different.  Spice is the variety of life.

Leave stress and the dramas of life out of the bedroom.  If you don’t, you will not only be tormented by whatever is bothering you, but you will also put a drain on your libido.

Try self-exploration and mutual masturbation.  You can’t expect your partner to be able to please you if you don’t even know what you like.  Invite your partner to watch you please yourself.  Once they see what you like, they can add these new tricks to their arsenal.

Hope that helps!

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