Sexy & Single in New York

Sexy & Single in New York

February 7th, 2012 // 8:51 am @

Sexy & Single in New York

Platonically dating an ex

This may seem like an odd statement, but it really makes sense if you think about it.  Most long term relationships, hopefully, are built on some type of foundation.  At the base of that foundation should be a great friendship.  So, what happens to the friendship after the breakup?

In some cases, there was no friendship, which is probably why there is no relationship anymore.  More often, and especially in my case, there was a strong friendship.  A finish each other’s sentence, co-dependent, I could spend all day with you friendship.  Why does this relationship have to end after the healing is done?

Now, don’t get me wrong, there were several “I hate you, you should die” moments, with several exes.  And again, the ones that lacked a friendship and foundation, died in my mind after the breakup.  I don’t mean literal death, just, “you no longer exist in my world”-death.

So, after the healing, and before a new relationship, date your ex.  They get you.  They understand your quirks.  Anticipate your moods.  They even probably regret whatever it was that they did to lose you in the first place.  Take advantage of the attention, the doting, and hey-there might even be gifts.  Best of all, always remember that there are men that are just speed bumps before you get to the main drag.  So, slow down your car and enjoy the ride. 😉

Until next time…

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